Relationships

Listening Hearts Produce Listening Ears — Part 2

LuAnn Wu writes today: My husband and I have had many conflicts as we pack up our 20-year-old house and decide what to keep and what to toss. Sometimes we handle these conflicts in a healthy manner, while other times we have to take timeouts and return to resolve them later when we are calmer. When attempting to resolve a disagreement, my tendency is to protect my own agenda, prove that I am right, and not listen well, but I am working to institute breaks when triggered, as discussed last week, and to listen well, which I will address today.

Take a Chill Pill — Part I

Today at ufcwomen.blog we hear from LuAnn Wu, a licensed professional counselor who attends UFC, about resolving relational conflict.

She writes, “The pandemic has forced us all to socially isolate. For some, this is a welcome time to spend with family or to do those neglected home projects. However, as the quarantine extends, this sustained and constant presence of our loved ones might feel like “too much of a good thing.” Interpersonal conflicts often result during periods of high stress and prolonged proximity.”

“How we deal with conflict is often an extension of our upbringing and may not always be productive for our current relationships. The favorable response is to maturely discuss a disagreement, so that both parties are heard and a mutually satisfying resolution is discovered. Yet, we have a fallen nature that often responds in an instinctive response: to fight, flee, or freeze…”